Resurrection

Even the biggest atheist amongst us has grown up on stories of Gods being benevolent, kind and at times righteous enough to take up arms and fight for the survival of the goodness of the human kind. Everyone one amongst us has experienced the rush and joy of rooting for an underdog and watching him prevail against a much stronger opponent or oven coming odds which insurmountable.

          In life as in a war, the blood of the innocent is shed, the mighty are broken and annihilated and you will experience the excruciating pain of losing something that you cherish the most. You will come across someone who is better than you, someone who will take away the thing which u love the most from u, you will be played like a fool and taken for a ride, be called an overly active mind if you question the facts (even the subtle ones) and called an uncaring heart if you don’t question them. Confusion will reign supreme, you will be left to ponder whether you should be grateful for what you have or in the end realize that fighting for a losing cause at the end of which was a second rung prize anyways.

          Resurrection in its truest form means coming back from the dead, some may even modify it to mean stepping up to the plate when you are down for the count. For me, it simply means embracing what you truly are. In life you have to put on many faces, just to survive and the real resurrection is keeping your true self alive amidst all the confusion that fogs your mind and clouds your judgment. Just like a tiger can’t change his stripes nor can a lion turn vegetarian, so too a man can’t change what he truly is.

         You may strategize and plan all you want to, but the fact of the matter is neither LIFE nor GOD plays fair. So to play by the conventional rules seems rather foolish, doesn’t it?? Playing to win, seems like a logical and simple conclusion, right?? Yes, but only to an extent. After a while, what excites you more is just the thrill of the chase or put in simple words, HOW YOU PLAY THE GAME. The greatest pleasure in life is in watching the game unfold just the way you planned it, despite all the odds. Now that, all the pawns are in place, all the enemies have been identified and all the lies have been unmasked, it’s time to do what I do best i.e. play a cold and ruthless game, lay to waste anything that comes my way, enjoy the carnage and TURN NIGHTMARES INTO REALITY.

The EASIEST 8 lakhs ever

         26 November, 2010, the day the unthinkable happened. The day, when what i had been hoping for, for the last 4 yrs, actually came true. The day, which is barely 48 hrs old, seems like one FUZZY DREAM sequence of events, and though they are gonna shape the rest of my LIFE, i barely remember how it actually unfolded. lol

          People say that success comes only to those who toil hard, are talented, are focused, are

driven by the sheer determination to achieve their aim, are aware of what is happening around them and can stand out from the crowd. These are the very thoughts, which even i had when i started with my MBA. Everybody around me, was clear about what they wanted, took part in competitions and won them by sacrificing their sleep and understood concepts at breathtaking speed. I knew i had to work extra hard, to even compete with them, but unfortunately, i was ALWAYS  too lazy to do anything about it.

           Before i could do anything to alter the my course, it was time for my SUMMERS, and as love struck as i was, i lapped up the first opportunity that came my way. And as it turned out, even though i didnt get the girl ;-), i managed to score BIG time with Ruchi Soya. Not only did i make my first money in years, i also managed to make a few friends along the way. And, as luck would have it, before i could recover from the exhaustion of the SUMMERS, college was back on, with life in the midst of its darkest period.

          The saving grace, was that innocent little kid "Udayveer". First, the sudden developments at Mercedes, then the rude awakening of Croma, and finally the celebrations for the Croma ppl, all within a time frame of 20 days, is the stuff that movies are made off. Whoso ever said, happiness of others makes ur heart ache, was clearly wrong, atleast on this occasion. For 2 yrs, i had convinced myself, i was going to get into auto or telecom sales, but as it finally turns out, i am gonna be a IT guy. lol

          Today, the feeling of having achieved a package of 8 lakhs, by parting, hukking and enjoying life without a care for tom, constantly falling in and out of love, is finally sinking in. Yet somehow, it doesnt feel any different. People keep repeating it,but it doesnt sound like such a big. Maybe life is not all about hard work, BUT smart work, connecting the dots, with lies if u have to, confidence to make it sound genuine and a belief that u can make it, despite the odds being stacked against you.

          U dream of a perfect, u dream of wearing something special, looking gud, stranges showering praises on you, getting an astronomical package with ur hometown as ur base(in all probability) is what came true on 26/11/10. so if a lazy bumm like me can make, anybody can make it.wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh       

The Immortals of Meluha

Well, aS the title of this blog suggests, i am in LOVE with the book THE IMMORTALS OF MELUHA(TIOM). I happened to read this book on my Diwali trip home, on my brother's recommendation, and boy, wasn't it a delight. It may not be the greatest literary piece ever written, but, for me it was a life saver.

          In the last few months, more than a few ppl have been surprisingly taken aback by my blogs, by the sheer seriousness of them and by the emotions pouring out of them. I will be lying if i say that, i didn't actually have a terrible last 3 odd months. But as in most cases, life flips on its head, when u least expect it too. In the last week of October, things finally started to look better, thanks first to the October fest n secondly to Dexter - the TV series. What questions about the duality of personality Dexter started in my head with the visual delight, TIOM drilled deep into my consciousness in less than 24 hrs. I still remember the most impact full line of the book, when Shiva has defeated the so called EVIL Chandravanshies, HE finds out that he was supposed to be their saviour too. This aspect of accepting both the good and evil sides of ur personality, no clear demarcation between black and white aspects of life and NOT being afraid to do things, JUST because its against the general norms, were aspects that had somehow gotten blurred in my head. 

           The trip home, not only gave me BACK my peace of mind, BUT also the UNJUSTIFIABLE arrogance to be brash again, to be COLD to my own emotions again and BREAKING another innocent heart (just because i could) without loosing my sleep over it.Now looking back, the last 3 odd months, my actions during them and my then state of mind, seem like my PUNISHMENT from GOD, for deviating away his GRAND plan for me, of NOT doing good, of NOT being caring, of JUST looking after my own interests, of making full use of every opportunity ( by any means necessary or running over anyone) and for THINKING that i NEEDED someone in my life to call my OWN,someone to hold on to, someone to lean on. 

           They say u r good LIAR if u can believe ur own BULLSHIT, then i must be F**KIN awesome, bcoz i had my self convinced for the better part of an year that THIS tiger had changed his stripes. lol. But as with everything in my life, the fight between gud and evil, ended with EVIL prevailing, n yet i consider myself GODS favourite child (or the one he loves to hate, the challenge of which i am actually starting to cherish again), simply because it proves that i am not only capable of handling anything which HE throws at me, BUT in the process also end up HAVING PLEASURES which most people can only DREAM off ;-)
             It is believed that ONCE u get ur heart broken, u can never even think of breaking someone else's heart, BUT then again some ppl just DONT conform to the rules of normal mortals, they make their own rules, they are the last THE IMMORTALS OF MELUHA and they are like ME

Apples to Oranges

We all have grown up hearing the phrase " Nice guys finish LAST" and laughed when someone we know ends being the NICE guy, makes a mockery of himself, inevitable for a girl. What baffles us the most is how something so obvious could be overlooked, how could someone not learn form the mistakes of others and how could some make the same mistakes time and again.

        I have always considered myself as someone who was smart enough to understand the tricks of the trade when it came to women and realized at a very early stage that being nice wasn't my cup of tea. Call it GODS sarcasm or fate, but no matter who you are, sooner or later, life does came back to bite you on ur arse. 

        The other day, a dear friend of mine brought it to my notice that i had changed, i had transformed form  an APPLE  (sweet and nice) to an ORANGE (tangy and nice). Honestly speaking, i couldn't really understand the metaphor in its entirety until last night. Having had more than a few crisis in the last 2 odd months that have tested me in ways i thought weren't even possible, i had given up on everything. The oddest of surprises was that in giving up and accepting defeat, i somehow found the ARROGANT, COLD HEARTED and the blatantly SADISTIC Chandigarh lad, who i had been trying to get rid off. In trying to make others happy,  i had forgotten the joys of doing things for your own selfish reasons, the absolute delight in not having regrets and most of all , the simple pleasure of SPEAKING YOUR MIND and asking POINTED questions.

           The true triumph is when , after having tasted defeat, staring temptation straight in the eye and saying NOT THIS TIME BOY. Playing with it, fliritng with it, admiring it BUT NOT letting the temptation into ur mind and deepest recesses. The APPLE has infact turned into an ORANGE, just a little badder than before, just a little more meaner than before, just a little bit colder than before BUT a whole lot happier than before. and the timing couldn't have been better. For the first time in Bangalore, i had the company to match the party LONG LIVE THE KINGFISHER BEER FEST  

The GOLDEN Rules

Well, more than a few people (and people whom i hold very dear) have expressed concerns , or should i say, dismay and shock, over my last few posts. While i am touched, with all the concern and love, it also was an eye opener for me. It served as the perfect catalyst that was required to wake me up from this slumber. Having gone through, probably, what must be the toughest and the most freaky few months of my life, the only desire left in my heart now, is to do what everybody has been after me to do, for the longest time i.e. TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD ALL THE TRICKS OF SNARING ANY WOMAN, be it single, smart , dumb, married, committed , beauful or jsut ur next door girl.

1) NEVER EVER get involved with a girl you have to see/ meet everyday.

u may ask but WHY?? here's why. Seeing her everyday, makes it a habit, a set routine and after a while, even if u dont realsie it, u become addicted to the routine, even if u hate it. U start taking it for granted and expectations begin to creep in, and any deviation form them, FUCKS with ur head

2) NEVER EVER LET GO OFF ALL THE POWER in a relationship

u may say, once u find true love, all of this doesnt matter. Well, u may be right, but in my experience (and trust me its pretty exhaustive ;-) ) Being there selflessly for the other person is a given, but expecting the same from the other person is NOT wrong. If u dont like something, dont let it sly else it will become a precident and will irritate u for ever BUT remember to use it at the right time ONLY.

3) TARGET committed girls n date a min of 2 girls at the same time

Firslty, committed girls feel a lot safer than single girls as they dont have chip on their shoulders. Be a friend to them, ALWAYS listen to what they r sayin, even if it bores the life out of u. Remember what they say, n never offer advice unless asked for. Never critize them, n if u have to, do it in such a way, that it apperas an extension of their own idea.

Secondly, since they r committed, make sure they dont break up with their BF's. He is unknwoingly ur best friend. Every mistake he makes, is an advantage for u, so DONT kill the golden goose. n since she is committed, u wont ever get too serious for her.

Finally, since u r dating 2 women, u wont believe the crap u say abt love to them. Plus, lying abt love will become so ingrained in u, that u will start frliting, even when u dont even try.

4) TEST the boundaries

every girl is not the same , so its IMPOSSIBLE to say what is a sure shot what to get a girl. u constantly have to keep testing or even bending the boundaries of the relationship, else u will never be able to figure out what the extent to which u can go. It could be anyhting, and not just gettin physical stuff. Even the mental comfort level which u share, makes a lot of difference. Once u get her to share her deepest darkest secret, u know u have her undying trust. After that how u handle it, is upto u.

5) BE everything she DOESNT looks for in a BF

If she is any gud, she would have guys hitting on her all the time, so dont be JUST another one in the crowd. Be her friend, but keep tellin her stories of ur gf's. Create a dual personality in front of her, one of a friend and another of the guy u r with other girls ( non friends). LIE if u have to, make up phantonm stories, create people out of thing air BUT show her u have a bad side. then all the niceties u do, will leave a much sweeter taste in her mind.

6) NEVER take names or tell anybody what u r doing

Never EVER tell the girls name to anybody, if possible. Keep it under wraps as much as possible but share with her ur friends name, this will make her more relaxed, but DONT make them meet her. Meeting the family is simply out of the question, we dont want unnecessary complications, do we ;-) World is a really small place, n ppl r connected some how or the other. So be very carefull what u say to ppl, at times even ur BEST friend can turn out to be a member of the rival gang. lol.

Thats preety much all i can remember right now, but since this is a topic, which i dearly love, constant updates will keep on flowing. Hope , some poor soul finds this useful.

How the MIGHTY have FALLEN

They say, OLD HABBITS DIE HARD. Well, to be perfectly honest, i always thought, that while the statement is true, it is also true that IF U LIE LOUD ENOUGH AND LONG ENOUGH, IT BECOMES THE TRUTH. In my own innocent and true boyish spirit , i imbibed these two phrases into my life, almost eight yrs ago.

I started to LIE abt everything, and apparently after a while i convinced myself so completely, that it became a habit. The truth became so entangled with the lies, that, when i look back at it, even i can’t tell one from the other. A few lucky encounters or chance incidents, gave me a certain position in people's mind, one of a womanizer, one who could get committed girls to fall for him , someone who was devious and conniving and it gave me such a HIGH, made me feel so powerful, that i ran with it. Even when all of it had lost its meaning, even when the burning fire of desire had burnt out, i still ran with for 6 yrs, fuelled by the expectations of people, consumed by my own dark mind, and the urge to shock and awe the world.

The need to turn EVIL n UNPREDICTIBLE and to be HATED became so uncontrollable, that doing the most indespicable things, manipulating the most innocent of hearts, didn't even make me bat an eyelid. CONTROLLING people and their lives seemed so right. Time and again, GOOD tried to rear its ugly head up, but all i had to crush it was, sms 3 women I LOVE U. ;-)

In the last 18 months, the memory of the GLORIOUS past has kept me going on the familiar path of destruction, BUT the events of yesterday (missing a friends cake cutting, thinking abt a friends words during the exam to the extent that it gave a migraine, a wonderful evening another friend and the open hearted conversation with her and the surprising SMS) though seem not very significant, did a lot of damage (or should i say a lot of good). It made me realise that i am back to being what i was , before this MAGICAL AND SURREAL journey of 8 yrs started. Back to being confused, back to not being in control of my own decisions, back to being a spineless weasel unable to take a stand and most significantly, BACK TO BEING THE GUY FOR WHOM WOEMN ARE MYTHICAL CREATURES, MEANT TO BE ADMIRED FROM A DISTANCE AND IMPOSSIBLE TO BEFRIEND.

The saddest part of the fall, is not the feeling of being pathetic or self pity, but the MEMORY of the yrs gone by. If life has to teach lessons, well it should atleast have the decency to erase the memory of the time when u were GREAT. THIS time, the defeat has been so utter and complete, that not ONLY have i LOST the MOJO, but also even the WILL to fight for it.

          

           

Desperate to be RELEVANT

I remember when I was in class 6, our teacher of English gave us the following topic for writing an essay, “Our we happier than our forefathers”. Like most things back then, I never tried to understand what it meant, but did it anyways. The reason, why this thought suddenly popped into my head, will be explained later(and let me assure u, it will be worth the wait), but it suddenly dawned on me, that this is the earliest memory I have of the time, when I tried to defy the path normally taken, and actually took a risk of copying it from an essay book and praying that nobody else had the same book.

     It may seem like a very insignificant incident, but for a boy, who was as timid as they come, so shy that he couldn’t speak to a girl even if his life depended on it, who was the ideal picture of your bookworm, who actually took pride in the fact that he had never been scolded by any teacher (This fact remains true, till date ;-) ) and who couldn’t stand in the same room as a guest for more than 2 seconds ,without running out shit scared.

    The metamorphosis of this very boy, into the man I am today ,like most stories, involves a girl. The only catch here is (in true CHANDIGARH SPIRITS, all pun intended), it involves a different girl, at every stage of the metamorphosis. Right from the first girl I ever gave a call to (which was in class 9), to the first girl, I ever had a crush on (which was in class 10) BUT the most significant impact was made by that teacher of English (and not the English teacher, I am sure my principal would be proud that I still remember this) in class 6. And not surprisingly , she(the teacher) was a 25 yrs old female, who forced us to mingle with the opposite sex and gave punishments which involved sitting with a new girl everyday in class and spending all your time with them. This was phase one of the metamorphosis (even though it wasn’t intended and took a long time to show results)

       The next step, was when my first crush, shunned me away when I asked her for her phone no. ( I remember the embarrassment of standing at your farewell party of class 10, and feeling dejected). The only saving grace was the fact that just a few months ago, I was the main player in getting a certain maths prof. chucked out of school (and my parents had no clue about it), else it might as well have been my funeral.

     The 3rd main phase , was when I had a chance encounter with a certain Gaatha Sharma, in class 11. For almost two yrs, I was her knight in shining armour, her one stop solution to all problems and the shoulder she always cried on, albeit it was just over the phone. Her countless friends, who showed interest in me, suddenly showed me my TRUE purpose in life., overpowering all previous failures or for the lack of a better word, a non existent past. 

     After that, life was never the same. For the next 6 to 7 yrs, life was just a burning desire to live life in the fast lane. Each conquest, only made me bolder and brasher. Nothing was impossible. The fact that she was committed, was just a technicality. Committed girls was a drug and I was addicted to it. I was GOD, and the world, mere pawns.

    The final and yet the most significant metamorphosis came when I had to shift base to Bangalore, last June. In the race to seem “NORMAL” to the people around me in my new surroundings, I somehow lost myself. And just as fate would have it, GOD played his cruelest trick right then. He sent NOT ONE BUT TWO women, to do the impossible i.e. FUCK MY HEAD UP, and let’s say they did a mighty fine job. The story of which is a blog for another time.

     In Chandigarh I had a clear mind and knew what I wanted, no matters how confusing the women were and as a result nothing ever went wrong. The BIGGEST irony is, in trying to do the right thing here in Bangalore , I have achieved the greatest of ecstasies and also hit the lowest point of my life. BUT the thing that I have come to realize of late, is that my entire life has been a desperate attempt to seem relevant. All the relationships, flings , affairs have been an attempt to satisfy the ego of a shy boy, that it’s never too late for life to begin. And now in Bangalore, it was a desperate attempt to rectify the past, to right the wrongs, to make life seem relevant and to be more than just a shallow person that it was before.

    Finally, I have managed to decipher the divine truth of life. We all try desperately to seem relevant, it’s just that it differs for person to person. For me, it’s the FIRST GOLDEN TENANT that I had made for myself , which read “ EVERY RELATIONSHIP CANT BE CLEARLY CANT BE DEFINED CLEARLY. SOME ARE BEST ENJOYED IN THE CONFUSION WHICH SURROUNDS THEM”